Well I
am headed home. Back to the “normal”
world in some ways anyway. I guess I
should be glad to get back in some ways.
I miss my boyfriend terribly.
Okay, I am also a bit horny. It
has been a long time after all. I doubt
I will do a vacation with the sa me cast of characters ever again. I won’t say I am an overly active person, but
just drinking and hanging by the pool just isn’t my thing. Maybe it is just due to the fact I know what
is coming up soon. But I don’t really
think so. I have been texting with my
friend and I think we will have a great time on our first get away. I wonder how long that will be? He has not had the chances to go/do what I
have and I am eally looking forward to the chance to travel with hm. It will be like the first time I did it since
I can view the trip through his eyes. I
am a skier of course and I have long enjoyed taking beginners to one of my
favorite places. Killington
Vermont. See, here in the south, we have
small resorts and Killington is BIG. My
home resort is about 28 slopes and that is being kind. Killington is 200 spread over 6
mountains. I love to see the faces of
the newbies when I turn a certain corner on the way and they get this 270
degree view with slopes everywhere.
Watching Danny see places I have been will be very similar to that. Funny, we are within months of the same age
and we have such different life experiences.
It should be great to travel with him.
On another front, my wife and I had a little argument
today. Wasn’t really about anything
substantial but somehow was different.
Am I trying to cause things like this to speed things along? Maybe.
We have several timeshares in really nice locales. We have booked one for next Thanksgiving and
space banked another already. I wonder
how we will use them. If I am very
lucky, we will be able to not only keep them, but share them in ways to make us
both happy. She has more vacation time
than I do and I have already told her she needs to think about using them
without me. Turns out she will use them
all without me and with luck, I will use some without her. The next scheduled trip is Hawaii, that will
be after the bombshell. Already have the
time booked. It is a 2 bedroom that
sleeps 8. Hmm, now that could be
interesting. I can see at least 3
different scenarios. One would be that
we are “very sophisticated” and continue
on like nothing has changed. Can’t see
that happening. Two would be that she is
so angry she doesn’t come at all or she insists I don’t come at all. Three is that she has one bedroom with the
kids (sleeps 4) and I take the Master with my boyfriend. Yeah, can’t see that one.
(LOL). You are not being nice to wife skier! Guys, amny guys, my husband included like to put thoughts into their wives heads, make scenarios. Give her a chance. You have been married a long time, and while the love for may be different I am sure you love her and she loves you too.
ReplyDeleteWhile the reaction of each wife is different to these scenarios, I do hope that option 3 works for you. Don't cause fights, it will not make this easier. Don;t assume how she will react. Let her react and then from her reactions determine whether it is real or emotional and then work through it. there is no reason for her to hate you or the you her.
You'll get through this!
First, thanks for your response and comments. I am hoping you are right. So hoping in fact. Believe me, I will have no trouble giving her a chance. I just pray she gives me one. I do still love her. Very much in fact. I don't think it is as much a case of putting scenarios in her head as much as trying to prepare myself for the scenarios I can see. Of course, there can be others I don't see. I can't see how we won't have fights. I do think we will eventually reach a point where we will be able to discuss this with each other without fighting.
ReplyDeleteAs to a reason to hate me, I think most women would think a husband telling them he's gay would qualify. At least in the beginning of the journey. Buddy is kind of my shining hope. His wife was very angry and called him lots of names. She as started to come around. I don't know if you realize that I think she already knows. It is hard for me to believe she doesn't for some many reasons. As a wife in a similiar position, may I ask you a question? If Jerry had not come out to you, but you started to suspect it, would you want to have him come out or just continue like nothing is going on? Keep in mind also that we haven't had intercourse in over 5 years!
Yes, I imagine I will get through this. But I think it will be a bumpy ride before smooth flying.
Two very important things as a women. She is entitled to any feeling she has! If she yells, sit back and let her, do not engage in the converstaion owith anything but love, appreciation and understanding. The calmer you are the easeir this will be for both of you. Cry if she cries, comfort her, whatever you do don't blame her, wether you think she suspects it or not.
ReplyDeleteIf I suspected Jerry of being gay, I would ask, I have asked before. I would want the truth. I am glad Jerry came out to me for his personal satisfaction.
It would be easier for me if I didn't know. I love him I accept him to have a "buddie" as they say, I want to stay married and he is not sure. This is the only hard part in all of this for me.
If she is okay with it, will you stay married?